Bowen family systems theory postulates that among the biologically-rooted drives within an organism, there are competing forces for individuality and togetherness. It is these forces that govern emotional transactions in all relationships. These counterbalancing life forces shift the locus of control for behavior from the individual to the emotional system. What transpires in the emotional system impacts the interplay of feeling and thinking in the individual which has a direct effect on his or her relationships. Increased chronic anxiety can result in an individuals' feelings overwhelming their intellectual system which leads to a drive for togetherness overwhelming their individuality in that emotional system. This workshop demonstrates how understanding the effects of chronic anxiety on individuality-togetherness balances can enhance one's functioning in various emotional systems.